How many times have we found ourselves bickering with others? As "Christians", shouldn't we all get along? As long as we are in the flesh and not acting in the Spirit, no. I had an experience a long time ago with someone who, oddly, had sent me friend requests and followed me on every social media site I had, that I assumed, had good intentions. I was wrong. It started off nice and innocent, but it turned ugly quick with the other person indirectly throwing insults at me and my family. I was dumbfounded. My normal reaction was to fire back and that was exactly what the other person was looking for. You know why? They used those reactions to try and convince others that I was a mean person when all the while, they erased their comments that provoked and started it. That pleased the devil. The devil tries to ruin our witness and will do it in a sneaky way. I didn't know what was going on, but after talking with those who knew this person best, I started to feel pity instead of hate. I remember myself doing the same thing when I was at that age and looking back, I was embarrassed. Why? Looking back, all that poking and prodding made me look jealous of that other person and also hurt my witness. If you find yourself attacking others, ask yourself these questions:
1. Why am I trying to ruin this person's witness?
2. Have I used prayer instead of hurtful and false rumors?
3. Am I doing this because I have some underlying issues?
4. Should I seek counseling?
5. What would God have me do?
If you don't like someone, don't snoop. Snooping requires bitterness of the heart and creates an ugly personality that shows outwardly. Snooping is an obsessive quality that qualifies as stalking and can lead to physical stalking of the other person (believe me, I know). How do I know? Because I have one right now, if not more and this blog will be copied and saved to someone's phone or computer in hopes of destroying my witness and trying to stir up anger in others towards me. Like my former youth pastor used to say, "If you aren't being attacked, you're doing nothing for God." The devil will use others to spread rumors, poke and prod you for the sole purpose of trying to get you to react and I am ONLY guilty of reacting and the only way to protect myself was to block people. I am sure even blocking doesn't do the trick, so if something pops up, well, then you know someone had to have made a fake profile to stalk you. The best thing you and I can do, is never EVER search or look for someone whom you know, doesn't like you. They wake up, go throughout the day, and sleep with the hopes of posting and pinning things for the sole purpose of getting you revved up. How can you keep from getting revved up? Don't look! I used to be guilty of that, but then I was like, "you know, if I react, I look jealous and bitter." In my previous situation, I didn't look at it that way; I was solely reacting to taunts and then after praying about it and talking to my in-laws and my own friends and family, I realized that I wasn't dealing with a normal person. To say that, my job and responsibility is to forgive and love that person with all of my heart. Why? I was once there. Looking back, good grief, how embarrassing. I look at my life now and I regret things that I've said and done and count my many blessings. I am extremely blessed with a very handsome husband with every quality of a man I have personally longed for:
1. He works for everything he has.
2. He had a rough past and because of that, he doesn't want glory, attention, nor a pat on the back.
3. He has beautiful thick hair that I love.
4. Pretty caramel eyes.
5. His body is perf. Big arms, big hands, stocky build.
6. Pretty straight and white teeth with very good hygiene.
7. Pretty nose.
8. Big gorgeous eyes that light up.
9. Has this endless grin on his face (big cheezer!).
10. Perfect pouty lips.
11. Beautiful voice.
12. Patient.
13. Deep voice.
14. Never yells at me.
15. Tells me he likes my small, petite body.
16. Tells me I'm beautiful pregnant (maybe that's why we keep having kids!) lol.
17. He doesn't boast nor brag.
18. Compliments my cooking and my role as a mother and wife.
19. Loves changes diapers and blow drying our daughter's hair! lol
20. Asks me for help when it comes to studying the Bible.
I am also blessed to have beautiful children. My son was on top last year in his Preschool class last year and today during the parent/teacher conference, I was told that he was the top in his class. His teacher said there were 4 kids who excelled in class and Brent was the one on top. She said that when other children had a hard time with words, that Brent volunteered every time to go to the student and whisper the answer to him/her. I have a beautiful curly blonde haired, blue-eyed girl with porcelain skin and another beautiful girl on the way. My heart leaps for joy when I think about the joys of being a mother. Being a mother doesn't involve "self." I can't tell you how many times I have grabbed something from the store and put it back and got the kids something because I felt selfish. Granted, we have the money, but my heart couldn't do it. It was here recently that I had to buy a couple of shirts for myself because my big belly prevented me from wearing my shirts and my husband's shirts were just not that pretty! LOL! Looking back at all of these blessings, it seems silly to allow someone to cause drama in my life that is warranted as unnecessary.
So, as hard as it is, every time I think about reacting, I think about how many similarities there are between those incidents in the past and the ones that I've dealt with recently. Seriously. This person who has attacked me and my family's reputation with poking and prodding resembles so much of my past that I can not stand to look back on. I remember being that other person and I was miserable, but that's not who I am now. If you are dealing with this same situation or similar one, protect yourself. Try to realize that age has a lot to do with it and maturity/immaturity. Five years from now, it will seem silly to them and to you so don't say anything else, don't react to their poking, and don't look. They need to find their own happiness and some do it because they miss what used to be. I don't do it anymore because I don't want any type of communication with anyone from my past. No one should, but unfortunately, some want to be connected somehow whether through family or friends. Don't let that be you today. Kiss your husband/wife and live in blessings. God has a plan for everyone and each one differently so that He can bring glory to Himself. Lay it down as His feet and walk off knowing that He is going to take care of it. If people stalk, let them. If they stalk physically, um, call the law lol. All jokes aside, pray about it and may God give you a peace that passes all understanding. May God bless you. Any questions or comments, please feel free to post. I love you! XOXO
"Imitation is the best form of flattery."
"No amount of makeup can mask an ugly heart." -Kevin Aucoin
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